Calling Bullshit On Only Dressing Up For Your Partner On Special Occasions
A quick search online and a lot of articles will tell you ‘dressing up for your partner will bring a spark back into your relationship’ or even ‘spice things up’. Personally I think this is ridiculous, why wait until you think your sexual relationship is spiralling to bring out a naughty nurse costume?
I’m not saying go run to Ann Summers and immediately buy every costume they own, then parade around your bedroom in front of your significant other. But I am saying, why not randomly slip away into the other room one night and change into something then surprise them? This goes for other acts too, like why is there ongoing jokes about girls only giving out blow jobs on their fella’s birthday? If a guy refused to go down on a girl and made it public knowledge, I’m sure there would be outrage and words thrown around.
But back to the main issue, why aren’t y’all showing yourselves off?! A big part of dressing up in the bedroom is being able to take on an alter ego and run with it. It doesn’t matter if you ain’t usually confident, you’ll be surprised how easily some lace can make you feel a million dollars.
If your not feeling it straight away, there are simple things you can do that might bridge the gap of ‘oh shit I’ve never done this before’ like, for example buying lace hold ups. One thing I did on a regular basis would wear lace hold ups under my clothes when I met up with my significant other, at first they we’re obvious to it all and the look on their face was priceless. I will admit after a while, they click on. If they paid real attention they would notice I was wearing hold ups instead of tights because of the thickness, and yet it added a whole new level of seduction and thrill.
It’s like holding a biscuit above a dogs nose while they’re being obedient. They know it’s there, they know what is going to happen and yet they get more and more excited for the treat, the longer they wait.
One time I ‘went to the toilet’ and came out wearing stockings, suspender belt, costume etc and just stood hovering by the door until my partner looked over. I will never forget his expression, and instead of doing the nasty, I just sat next to him and acted completely normal. The whole situation changed and there was a sense of anticipation as well as lust. Watching someone try to carry on with what they we’re doing, while you’re sat there is entertaining and really empowering. This story itself is why I’m calling bullshit on saving it all for special occasions, because surely a happy and surprising sex life makes for a happy couple right?
If fancy dress costumes aren’t your taste whatsoever, this can be applied exactly the same way with lingerie. Again, Ann Summers really nail this too whether you just want a fancy bra and knickers, or a full on corset you’re spoiled for choice. If you want to do some research on less ‘trashy’ costumes I’d advise looking at ‘babydolls’, ‘camis’, ‘corsets’ and if you’re feeling more adventurous, under the erotic tab they have ‘sexy dresses’ which are more leather/latex orientated.
Either way if you can rock it, then why not do it on the regular? You never know, you might discover some powerful vixen deep down and could you imagine how amazing that would be for your sex life!